Category Archives: Family

Family, Extended…

One of the best parts of this summer (in addition to being on the road, which I absolutely LOVE), was getting to visit with members of James’ family. It started with the Garrard-Register Family Reunion in Thomasville, GA, where fambam came from far and wide for the biannual reunion, to catch up and reconnect. This was the second Garrard-Register reunion I’ve attended with James, and I enjoyed visiting with Fam I met last time, along with meeting new folks. They also showed TPC lots of love by picking up copies of James’ book, which is always wonderful. And the food! There is nothing, NOTHING like a family reunion-sized cookout — best BBQ I’ve ever had the pleasure of consuming, hands down.

Some serious BBQ at the Garrard-Register Family Reunion

After the reunion, we headed out to Jacksonville, Florida for a lovely four-day visit with James’ cousin Imani. I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again, I LOVE cousin Imani. I swear, we are like sisters separated at birth, and we did some major bonding. I definitely plan to make visits to Casa Imani (aka 1814) an annual thing. 🙂

On our return trip to Atlanta, we were hosted by Imani’s mother, Cousin Ernestine, who made us feel SUPER welcome. Our visit to her place in Stone Mountain, GA was wonderful. In addition to getting more acquainted with this branch of the family tree, we were treated to some amazing home cooking and good ole southern hospitality. Continue reading

What happens in Vegas…


Just a quickie to post the link to the pics from my latest adventure… The Casher Men (and one Casher Woman) converged in Sin City this past weekend for some good ole fashioned family bonding… Got to help Cousin Doug and Derrick lose their Vegas Virginity, and good times (and very little sleep) were had by all 🙂

Casher Fam in VEGAS

HAPPY BIRTHDAY DEVIN!

We interrupt your regularly scheduled New York programming to bring you a very special announcement. Today, my adorable nephew Devin turns one year old!!! It’s kinda hard to believe that it was a year ago that we received this newest addition to our family… My how time flies… I’ve created a special birthday slideshow in celebration of this special day, so we can all take a look back at Devin’s first year 🙂

Happy Birthday Devin – Auntie Steph loves you!!!

CONGRATULATIONS ERIC!!!

Well it’s official folks – ERIC PASSED THE BAR!!! HE IS NOW, OFFICIALLY, AN ATTORNEY!!!

Sorry, I know I’m shouting, but this is SO DAMN EXCITING! By far the coolest thing to happen to the Casher Clan since Devin was born 😉

Passing the Bar is a huge, huge deal. A major accomplishment. Not only is it an incredibly difficult, 3-day exam, but the California Bar Exam is one of the hardest tests in the nation, with only a 40-50% pass rate. And my baby brother is one of the 60% that passed this time around!!!

I can’t even tell you how ridiculously proud I am of Eric… He is ambitious and determined and works so hard not only to achieve, but to excel at everything he does. And now that hard work has finally paid off. Finally, after so many years of hustling, studying, and struggling, he will finally get to enjoy the fruits of his labor. The start of a new life chapter, filled with limitless possibilities for growth and prosperity. Long overdue and well-deserved little brother! Now you can focus 100% on your bright and glorious future!!!

It actually has an interesting symetry that almost exactly one year ago we were celebrating Eric’s graduation from Law School. And now the circle is complete. And the celebrating can begin!

I love you so much Eric, and am so incredibly proud. YOU inspire ME more than you know. I can’t wait to have a Steph and Eric celebration dinner as soon as I get back from New York 🙂 You freaking rock man!

Maui Love


I have just returned from a magical place… A place far removed from the noise and pollution of the city… A place where simplicity is revered, and people live off the land, consuming only what they need. A place where the rain falls from the sky with such abundance that the trees and vegetation grow tall and lush, reaching towards the heavens, a playground for giants. Where pregnant trees bear a multitude of fruit–avocado, papaya, mango, pineapple–just ripe for the picking on the side of the road. Where waterfalls tumble down the sides of mountains at every turn, the rush of water providing instrumental backing for nature’s song. A place where love flows free, filling the heart and nourishing the soul.

KC lives in the very remote and rural town of Kipahulu on the island of Maui. The way of life in Kipahulu is so primitive, at times I felt like I was on an episode of Survivor, lol. Located three hours from the nearest major city (Kahului), you make the trip to “town” once a week to stock up on food, water, ice, and propane. And whatever you purchase in town has to last you the whole week.

We had no electricity or refrigerator (the perishables were kept in a cooler), limited hot water for showering, and our toilet, shower and bath were located OUTDOORS. Super rustic. But it’s interesting to see how much of what we have in “civilization” is truly a luxury. How little we actually need to “survive”. The whole experience of living out in the country is incredibly humbling, and it makes you appreciate the little things (like hot water, lol), reevaluate your relationship to consumption, and minimize waste. I think it’s a journey everyone should take (truly roughing it). We are so spoiled in the city, and we take so much for granted…

The concept of time is also different on the Islands… We get up with the sun and go to sleep with the sun (since we don’t have electricity, there’s not much you can do in the dark, lol). There’s no rushing, there’s no deadlines. Shoot, there’s no stress. Everyone is amazingly chill, just going about their day, taking siestas, and gathering at the fruit stand in the afternoons to kick it and talk story. Good times, good times.

And it’s beautiful. Breathtakingly beautiful. Houses and yurts are few and far between, so you really feel like you’re in the middle of the jungle, surrounded by dense foilage. Waterfalls are everywhere, feeding tranquil mountain pools, and the ocean brings wave after wave of crystal blue water against a sandy shore. Paradise.

But by far, the best part of this trip was the time I got to spend with my family. KC and I have been best friends since the 10th grade, and she is one of my oldest and dearest friends. Now she has two children (the youngest is my Godson, Ola), and I love her boys like they are my own. Pono is 4 now, Ola 2, and both boys are walking and talking and just the most awesome kids. Smart, happy, and aware. We had so much fun, and I feel so blessed to be surrounded by so much love. Children love without limits–they think everything you do, everything you are, is just amazing. I strive to be someone worthy of their adoration and admiration. Someone they can look up to and learn from. It’s the least I can do — they teach me so much, every day, without even trying…

Check Flickr for the full set of pics from my Island Adventures… Re-entry is always rough, but I plan to make another trip to the Islands before the year is out… Aloha…

Devin and Izzy’s first playdate!

Attention all family — Devin and Izzy had their first playdate yesterday! Extreme cuteness ensued!!!

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It is so much fun watching this next generation grow, and now bond! Dena and I used to play together when we were this age (with papa as our chaperone), so to see Izzy with Devin together has this very touching cycle/circle of life feel to it… And watching Devin around other babies is way cool!

AND getting treated to homecooking a la Auntie Citas? Funnest day Ever!

Devin and Izzy's first playdate!

Attention all family — Devin and Izzy had their first playdate yesterday! Extreme cuteness ensued!!!

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It is so much fun watching this next generation grow, and now bond! Dena and I used to play together when we were this age (with papa as our chaperone), so to see Izzy with Devin together has this very touching cycle/circle of life feel to it… And watching Devin around other babies is way cool!

AND getting treated to homecooking a la Auntie Citas? Funnest day Ever!

Best Christmas EVER!!!

So those that know me, know I’m not a big fan of Christmas. Or more accurately, the commercialization of Christmas. Nowadays, Christmas seems to have little to do with the birth of Jesus, and has become about presents, and signifying love through the giving of presents. I think that’s messed up. Not everyone has the budget to do the whole present thing, but you can look real bad/cheap if you show up somewhere without a gift of equal or greater value to one you receive. Which is why I opt-out whenever possible–I know you love me, you don’t have to buy me a freakin’ present…

Anyway, I didn’t mean for this to be a rant. I actually had an awesome Christmas this year (quite possibly the Best Christmas Ever), because for the first time the focus was on what Christmas is really supposed to be about – KIDS and FAMILY.

My Jackson Fam journeyed all the way out from Mississippi (and Dallas) to spend the holidays with us, and it was just awesome having them here. A first for most of us, and my dad and auntie haven’t spent Christmas with their baby brother in over thirty years… So there was a lot of quality time bonding, and as we all get up in age, moments like these are especially precious. I had a blast.

Also managed to party my ass off, lol. We were drinking and clubbing on Friday night in San Jose, then did it Real Big in Frisco on Saturday night (an amazing sushi dinner before returning to our hotel rooms to drink and prepare for a night on the town), and lots of amazing food to consume on both Christmas Eve and Christmas Day. It’s been a minute since I’ve had that much fun.

And Devin. Oh man do I love that kid. He is like a movie I never get tired of watching. Such a cool, cool kid.

There were so many kodak moments this weekend, and rather than clog the blog, I’ve uploaded all the pics onto Flickr (complete with captions). I love my FamBam so much and I hope everyone out there was blessed enough to be surrounded by food, friends and family this holiday season.